I’ve been in a long distance relationship for a little over 2 years. It’s not easy but it is definitely doable! I can say this because my parents were in a long distance relationship during their marriage and this went on for 7 years until they were reunited for good! My Dad came to the States in 1980 and started the process of getting my Mom, older sister, and myself to America legally. That process took 7 long years. Mind you, this was before cell phones and FaceTime existed. So my parents did the old school communication route: snail mail. My Mom and Dad wrote each other during those years apart. Every so often my Dad was able to call Mom with a phone card that he purchased at the store. I still don’t know how they were able to do that for 7 years! I mean I get anxious when I don’t get my FaceTime date in with my boyfriend. Thank heavens for how much technology we have these days! : ) My parents are the true definition of what love is and it’s inspiring. Whenever I’m having a really tough time with long distance, I just remember my parents and their amazing love story!
I wanted to share a few things that I’ve learned during my long distance relationship that I think will be helpful to those of you who are in one or about to be in one!
- Communicate, communicate, communicate! I cannot emphasize how important it is to communicate with your significant other. Let them know that you care by sending them a text or calling them. It makes them feel like they are part of your day.
- Trust each other! You have to trust each other. Especially if you don’t see each other for months at a time. There is no room for jealousy. You HAVE to trust each other no matter what.
- Set aside a scheudled time for FaceTime/Skype Dates. Not only is it important to keep in communication with your S.O., but it’s EXTREMELY important to set aside that time to virtually see and hear each other LIVE! Right now I have 2 dates set aside each week with my boyfriend (Sunday and Wednesday) and let me tell you it’s the best thing ever! There’s something about seeing your person through your cell phone (or whatever device you’re using) in REAL TIME! I love it! : ) It gives both of you something to look forward to each week!
- Plan a virtual date. You have to be creative with your dates when you’re long distance. One thing that my boyfriend and I like to do is watch a show or a movie together while eating the same exact thing for dinner. For one of our date nights we both ordered sushi and watched “Beauty and the Beast” together. It was the sweetest date even though we were hundreds of miles apart!
- Send letters/care packages. Who doesn’t like happy mail? It’s nice to get something other than junk mail in your mailbox! Make your S.O. feel even more special by sending them a care package to show them that you care! I can guarantee you that it will bring a smile to their face. You’ll even earn some brownie points! ; )
- Plan trips to visit each other. I cannot stress enough how important it is to PLAN trips to see each other. It’s SO important to have that quality time together. Who doesn’t love exploring new places with your special person? It not only breaks up the distance but it also gives you a reason to set a countdown. The excitement of seeing your human again is one of the BEST FEELINGS IN THE WORLD!
- Be flexible! There will be times where you will have to pass on FaceTime dates because of work or in my specific situation – school work. My boyfriend is currently working on getting his PhD – so as you can imagine there have been many times where I would make the call and say let’s pass on FT so that you can finish your paper or whatever project is pressing at the moment! I know, I know – I’m an awesome girlfriend for doing this! Haha.
- Forgive! Every relationship will have its ups and downs. No relationship is perfect. You have to learn to forgive your S.O. There will be ugly days in your relationship and there will be days where you will get annoyed at each other! There will be days when you don’t see eye-to-eye (lots of them) but you have to talk it out and learn from each other. Easier said than done but trust me, you’ll feel much better about it!
I hope these tips help and encourage those of you who are in long distance relationships. If you’re currently in a long distance relationship or have ever been in one, shoot me a message. I would love to connect with you. Remember, you can do this!